Video Tutorial: How to Teach a Kid with Dyslexia

Clara wasn’t ready for kindergarten. We homeschool, so I didn’t make her do it. We just started with first grade the following year, but she wasn’t quite ready for that either.

By the end of first grade, I realized something else was going on. It took 2 whole years to get the IEP for her brother’s speech therapy, so I wasn’t going to go that route again.

I decided to rely on other homeschooling parents, and google. The more I read about dyslexia – or dilexika as she called it – the more I realized that was my girl.

It affects far more than reading. It’s not just individual characters. It’s sentence structure, grammar, math, it’s how she views the world and how she figures it out. It’s different.

That’s the honor of homeschooling. You have the privilege of learning how each one of your kids learns about the world. Unfortunately for teachers, they are given too many kids and not enough time. Every one of my kids learned to read in a different way.

My eldest hated phonics so much that he faked being unable to read. They had told me when he was 3 that he was special ed, so I believed that he couldn’t read. The gig was up when I realized he had perfect spelling, and he was a sight reader. When I started letting him pick the books, comics, his reading progressed to the point that he read Sir Gawain and the Green Knight in 5th grade.

The next one hated both sight reading and phonics. He decided to just memorize the english language. He was able to do it. His spelling is atrocious though.

My third kid was a dream and let me actually teach her using the teaching materials. She was reading by November of kindergarten.

The fourth one brought some spelling cubes to me at the age of 4.5 and asked me to teach him, so I did.

Clara came in at number 5 and had zero interest in anything other than playing and sports. Every attempt at teaching reading was met with tears. She couldn’t get past sound blends by the end of first grade. She was trying to memorize the english language, but didn’t have her older brother’s talent.

She was doing fine with math, but learning it in a different way than her older siblings. I realized that she was teaching herself in her head to do the manipulations in a unique way. We use Right Start for math, which values teaching kids strategies and encourages them to solve problems in the way that makes the most sense to them.

I don’t recall why I first started thinking it could be dyslexia, but I’m glad I started asking in homeschooling Facebook groups. Someone had recommended the Blast Off to Reading series and it was an incredible relief. It teaches the complex rules of the english language in an easy format and does rely heavily on pictures for word association. They also incorporate spelling right into the reading lessons.

No more tears at reading time. She can do sound blends. Most importantly, she’s progressing every day. She’s not reading paragraphs from the Bible, but she likes reading and likes learning every day and that’s good enough for me.

It has also taught my other kids to be compassionate. They were a huge help when her older brother was denied speech therapy for two years. His older siblings helped do the speech exercises with him, so that by the time he was finally approved for therapy, they said he didn’t really need it any more.

With Clara, the kids were not as compassionate. They could see that Luke had a physical impairment, but thought she was lazy or just misbehaving or worse, dumb.

I explained that we, all of us, see things differently. Clara assembles both words and numbers in her head in a very different lego pattern than what they are used to. She has taught herself in her own way, and makes her own associations. And that’s a beautiful thing.

Each morning since my mom was diagnosed with an illness, I’ve been having Clara facetime with her while she’s doing her reading. Clara loves the attention, and my mom loves being involved.

This morning, she couldn’t get my mom on the phone, so I stepped out of the room for a minute. When I came back in, I found her filming herself reading and talking through her thoughts. I thought it was fantastic and could possibly help other kids and parents. Enjoy, other than the motion sickness in the first minute. The video does a great job of showing how she sees the words and letters.

The Real Reason We Pray at Abortion Clinics

I gave some more thought to the woman who was marching her daughter in to the clinic to “remove” her grandchild. She screamed at us that she didn’t want her daughter on welfare.

I know many progressive, enlightened people who would agree with her. “We” don’t want more people on welfare, so this is the best solution. The authors of Freakonomics even credited the declining crime rate to increased abortions – making the conclusion that the criminals got killed off before they could commit the crimes. Not sure how they explain present day Chicago.

“We” don’t want to pay for more poor folk, so let’s just get rid of them before they can become a drain on the system.

Never mind compassion for the mom who may have made a mistake, or the dad who may have just been laid off from work.

Never mind the irony that we call this free choice, when most of these people feel like they have no choices.

Let’s kill the offspring of the drain on our system, so we don’t have to pay for them.

These enlightened folk are the same people who demand the right to health care, and the right for illegal immigrants to get free college education. But don’t let those illegal immigrants have a surprise pregnancy. We wouldn’t want to pay for their kids. No, better to “take care of it” by asserting their “right” to kill their young.

How about we give all people real, educated choices? How about we show real compassion for people in whatever situation they find themselves? Let’s actually get out there and help, rather than pointing fingers.

If this were truly about compassion, then the first thing a clinic worker would say is “I’m so sorry this is so hard for you. Let’s look at how we can help your family best succeed. Here is all the aid available to you – both public and private. Do you need emotional support? It’s available at [insert the name of a charitable organization].

Why must this be about numbers? Both about abortions performed and babies saved. It’s about neither. It’s about family health.

The family that makes the decision to kill their young to save finances, will tear itself apart. The mother that feels forced into that decision by her boyfriend, spouse or parents will live with unbearable grief for years.

Rather than cling to “rights”, let’s see about helping her feel whole. Let’s get her all the support she needs. And for goodness sake, let’s remove the guilt of putting another child on welfare.

THAT’S WHY WELFARE IS AVAILABLE.

If you know someone who needs love and compassion and real help, here are some resources. Please leave comments below with more resources and I’ll add them in.

And to be fair – here is the official “unbiased” help Planned Parenthood offers when someone finds themselves in an unplanned pregnancy. Note the descriptions given of Crisis Pregnancy centers and the scary word at the end of the option on adoption. Yes, that one is true, but the inclusion of that word at that particular moment could be rather terrifying to someone in that situation.

There are no resources offered regarding how to get help if a woman decides to raise her child. Also, despite the fact that a minor may not take tylenol without parental permission, read the last line of their article.

Please leave a comment and explain to me how Planned Parenthood’s official advice is unbiased.

Goyim Hamentashen

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I was raised Jewish, and cherish the rich history. My kids know well, the family background and my love for some Jewish traditions.

Growing up, Purim was the tribe form of Halloween. We got to dress up and go trick or treating in the Temple (I was reform, so it was not called synagogue).

Of course, every girl wanted to dress up as Esther.

A few weeks ago, I decided to teach my little goyim how to made yummy hamentashen. As usual, I was missing a key ingredient – apricot preserves. We substituted with whatever jam was handy.

We tried to use Duff Goldman’s recipe, but were also missing the plain brandy and poppy seed filling ingredients. I used apricot brandy and decided I now love apricot brandy.

This was a wonderful opportunity to discuss religious persecution and its hidden benefits.

As a reform Jew in New York, my whole religious identity was bound to the holocaust, not so much worshipping God. Sunday school did teach about Jewish culture and some prayers, for which I’m forever grateful. I can still recite the Sh’ma.

Personally, my great-Aunt was part of the resistance in Poland, along with her husband. Both they and their toddler son were killed when the Nazis discovered that their pharmacy was aiding the resistance.

In 1930s Poland, much of the Jewish population was assimilated. Many were more Zionist than religiously Jewish. That was my family.

As you can see in the photo above, my daughter has red hair. It’s from my grandma. It seems to be a dominant gene in my family. 3 of our 7 kids have red hair, which is not a semitic trait. At some point my family must have assimilated with some red haired slavs.

The religious persecution against Jews in Europe, prior to the Holocaust, while traumatic and unfair, did have one big benefit. It kept them Jewish for the most part, whether they worshipped God or not. It kept the little tribe from a backwater Roman province alive and well for over 2000 years.

Every time persecution went away, assimilation quickly followed. Assimilation is the quickest possible way to kill a community. Ask the Babylonians. They wanted to destroy the Jewish identity of those northern 10 tribes of the Jewish people. They didn’t kill the people. They just treated them decently, but made them intermarry and settle elsewhere. Pretty soon, they were known as the Samaritans and no real Jewish identity.

Basing religious identity on terrible events 50 years prior, does not fill the need for God in every child’s heart. As St. Augustine said, “Our hearts are restless until they rest in you.”

Almost every Jewish teen I knew, who was raised reform, grew up and married a Catholic or became Catholic. Some became nothing. Some became unitarian. But those seeking God mostly found their way to Catholicism, in my anecdotal experience.

Why? Because the liturgy is the same. It’s familiar.

There’s a tabernacle.

There’s a cantor.

There’s readings from the Old Testament.

There’s an ever burning candle.

Even the prayers are identical…. Kadosh, Kadosh, Kadosh… Holy, Holy, Holy… same prayer.

There’s some Jesus dude. So that was a bit of a hurdle for me. Ok, almost a job stopper.

But there’s also something else that Judaism was lacking for me. One true authority. I’ll continue that in another post some day.

Getting back to persecution…

I was raised to easily recognize persecution and call it out. So here’s where it gets just plain weird. I never experienced religious persecution as a Jew. Maybe because I grew up in a land where I thought all people were Jewish or Catholic (New York). I didn’t know there was any other religion until I was 12.

But here I am, Catholic, and I experience it all the time. Even from other Catholics. But just like historical religious persecution, aside from the Holocaust, forced Jews to decide if they were going to assimilate or truly worship God as their ancestors did, today’s publicly-accepted Catholic bashing forces us to choose.

We can hide our religious belief behind political correctness. We can avoid topics that involve things such as absolute truth. We can be silent while our Facebook friends rail against everything we can hold dear. Or we can sacrifice our reputation for the sake of the Truth. We will soon likely be forced to choose.

I was raised by a Communist and a Socialist and taught to fight publicly accepted doctrine. I was taught to fight authority and challenge propaganda.

I stand before you, to the horror of my parents, putting their lessons in action.

I CHOOSE GOD.