Clara wasn’t ready for kindergarten. We homeschool, so I didn’t make her do it. We just started with first grade the following year, but she wasn’t quite ready for that either.
By the end of first grade, I realized something else was going on. It took 2 whole years to get the IEP for her brother’s speech therapy, so I wasn’t going to go that route again.
I decided to rely on other homeschooling parents, and google. The more I read about dyslexia – or dilexika as she called it – the more I realized that was my girl.
It affects far more than reading. It’s not just individual characters. It’s sentence structure, grammar, math, it’s how she views the world and how she figures it out. It’s different.
That’s the honor of homeschooling. You have the privilege of learning how each one of your kids learns about the world. Unfortunately for teachers, they are given too many kids and not enough time. Every one of my kids learned to read in a different way.
My eldest hated phonics so much that he faked being unable to read. They had told me when he was 3 that he was special ed, so I believed that he couldn’t read. The gig was up when I realized he had perfect spelling, and he was a sight reader. When I started letting him pick the books, comics, his reading progressed to the point that he read Sir Gawain and the Green Knight in 5th grade.
The next one hated both sight reading and phonics. He decided to just memorize the english language. He was able to do it. His spelling is atrocious though.
My third kid was a dream and let me actually teach her using the teaching materials. She was reading by November of kindergarten.
The fourth one brought some spelling cubes to me at the age of 4.5 and asked me to teach him, so I did.
Clara came in at number 5 and had zero interest in anything other than playing and sports. Every attempt at teaching reading was met with tears. She couldn’t get past sound blends by the end of first grade. She was trying to memorize the english language, but didn’t have her older brother’s talent.
She was doing fine with math, but learning it in a different way than her older siblings. I realized that she was teaching herself in her head to do the manipulations in a unique way. We use Right Start for math, which values teaching kids strategies and encourages them to solve problems in the way that makes the most sense to them.
I don’t recall why I first started thinking it could be dyslexia, but I’m glad I started asking in homeschooling Facebook groups. Someone had recommended the Blast Off to Reading series and it was an incredible relief. It teaches the complex rules of the english language in an easy format and does rely heavily on pictures for word association. They also incorporate spelling right into the reading lessons.
No more tears at reading time. She can do sound blends. Most importantly, she’s progressing every day. She’s not reading paragraphs from the Bible, but she likes reading and likes learning every day and that’s good enough for me.
It has also taught my other kids to be compassionate. They were a huge help when her older brother was denied speech therapy for two years. His older siblings helped do the speech exercises with him, so that by the time he was finally approved for therapy, they said he didn’t really need it any more.
With Clara, the kids were not as compassionate. They could see that Luke had a physical impairment, but thought she was lazy or just misbehaving or worse, dumb.
I explained that we, all of us, see things differently. Clara assembles both words and numbers in her head in a very different lego pattern than what they are used to. She has taught herself in her own way, and makes her own associations. And that’s a beautiful thing.
Each morning since my mom was diagnosed with an illness, I’ve been having Clara facetime with her while she’s doing her reading. Clara loves the attention, and my mom loves being involved.
This morning, she couldn’t get my mom on the phone, so I stepped out of the room for a minute. When I came back in, I found her filming herself reading and talking through her thoughts. I thought it was fantastic and could possibly help other kids and parents. Enjoy, other than the motion sickness in the first minute. The video does a great job of showing how she sees the words and letters.
